10 Things To Tell Your Partner When Your Relationship Is Difficult

Things are tough at home right now and have been for some time. Do you press the eject button or do you press on?

Before throwing your partner’s things in a bin liner and calling a divorce lawyer, let us take a trip to the beautiful islands of Hawaii. From Wooloongabba, Wyoming or Warwickshire, the warmth of the sand on Waikiki Beach between your toes with the refreshing Trade Winds gently blowing. Let your imagination comfort you for a moment and let us be one with the indigenous Hawaiian people, for part of our journey today involves teachings from Ho’oponopono. As we go through the list, the parts of Ho’oponopono will become apparent and will be explained in relation to how to remedy difficulty in relationships.

10 THINGS TO TELL YOUR PARTNER WHEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS DIFFICULT

1. “WHAT DO YOU NEED FROM ME RIGHT NOW?”

Here is the normal scenario in Wyoming, Wooloongabba or Warwickshire: There is a disagreement or argument brewing. Wife wants to fight. Husband wants to withdraw. She gives chase, hoping for a reaction and he normally tries to stay silent. Naturally, these roles can be reversed.

Asking the above question to your partner tells them subtly that you want to connect, not withdraw or avoid. This will in turn calm them down, which gives licence to civilised discussion and possible problem solving.

2. “HOW CAN I HELP TO TAKE SOME OF THE BURDEN OFF TODAY?”

The response could be as simple as a “please listen to me” after a long, hard day or as intimate as giving a nice back rub. This gives your partner an opportunity to let off steam in whichever way they choose. This shows that you are as cool as a cucumber under pressure, and not going bananas like a crazed monkey!

Asking the above question to your partner tells them subtly that you care for them despite what has gone on between the pair of you. You are in a relationship and both parties have the right to benefits by being in one.

3. “I’M SORRY.”

Being specific as to why and how to improve for next time.

Grab your sun-screen and your beach towel, folks, it is time to make our first stop in Hawaii. This is Ho’oponopono Rule #1. Being sorry, or “minamina” in Hawaiian, because you know that you have done wrong and want to put right that wrong breathes life into the lungs of a relationship, much like the aforementioned Trade Winds in the Hawaiian archipelago. Being specific about why you are sorry is very important because it disarms more powerfully and talking of improving on that foible can start to melt the Ice King/Queen.

Example: “I apologise for not taking out the trash last night, babe. I understand that the kitchen stinks because of my forgetful actions and I will be more aware next time.”

4. “THANK YOU.”

Being specific as to why.

Staying in Hawai’i for this this one. This is Ho’oponopono Rule #3. Being grateful is such an appealing trait and makes you a more attractive person. It works in Wyoming, Warwickshire, Wooloongabba, or Waikiki Beach. It makes your significant other want to do more things with you and for you because you let them know that you appreciate them and especially so if you are thanking them for mundane tasks, people do not expect it for those. This following example is like having your feet caressed by the warm Pacific Ocean waters on the Hawaiian beach. Mahalo!

Example: “Thank you so much for taking out the trash last night, babe. I really appreciate it when you take the time to do it, even though you have that important meeting with Akamai this morning.”

5. “I’M PROUD OF YOU.”

Being specific as to why.

Knowing that you are doing well and having your good work appreciated at home is deeply rewarding. Feeling valued with your loved ones will give an ego boost guaranteed, making the smallest of us feel like the tallest. This is accentuated by big news, like a promotion or playing/coaching a grassroots sports team. Or even better when your partner was brave in the face of fear. Imagine your honey bunny saving someone’s life, the ultimate life accomplishment!

Example: “I am so proud of you for sticking up for that elderly lady. Many people would have swerved it, but not my boo. You are my hero and our kids are lucky to have a mum/dad like you.”

6. “OUR KIDS ARE LUCKY TO HAVE A MUM/DAD LIKE YOU.”

Being told that you are a great role model for Trixie and Trevor is the stand-out compliment one human being can give to another, knowing how hard a task being a parent is. If it comes from your other half, expect them to do somersaults in the living room, never mind having a spring in their step!

Example: See Number 5.

7. “PLEASE FORGIVE ME.”

Being specific as to why.

The whole thing of asking for forgiveness and giving it is one of the hardest things a couple goes through between themselves. To take the edge off things, we are back in Hawai’i with Ho’oponopono Rule #2. This is the continuation of Number 3, mending the damage already done but Operation Kala is well under way. It is like climbing Diamond Head volcano on O’ahu, it is an arduous, sometimes scary journey, but the view from the top is spectacular.

Example: “Please forgive me for eyeing up that Hawaiian lady in the grass skirt in front of you. I was insensitive and made you uncomfortable.”

8. “I LOVE YOU.”

Being specific as to why.

Unfortunately, this is our last visit to the Hawaiian archipelago with Ho’oponopono Rule #4. This is the sunset on a beautiful day of learning and discovery. To say “I love you”, or in Hawaiian “Aloha no au ia ‘oe”, is something that is sacred within a family and saying it every time all adds up in the brownie points bag. Do not forget to be specific about why you love your darling.

Example: “I love you because you are such a gentleman with my sister.”

Time to board the plane in Honolulu back to reality, unless Hawai’i is your reality in which you are one lucky son/daughter of a gun!

9. “I’M GOING TO MAKE MORE OF AN EFFORT TO…”

This is important because your beau/belle deserves a partner who is always changing and growing as a person, who in turn becomes a better partner. How much of a difference would it make to your relationship if you say you will change for the better, and then back those words up with action?

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Example: “I will make more of an effort with the kids’ homework. I know I should have done Trixie’s twelve times table yesterday. I will come home early today and help her with her spellings.”

10. “THANK YOU FOR BEING SOMEONE I CAN RESPECT.”

What are the odds on a relationship staying alive with someone you do not respect and admire? “Without respect, there is no love,” says the old adage. Knowing that you are respected at home breeds self-esteem, which can be transmitted into other areas of your life. A respected person is a happy person, after all.

10 Ways to Step Up In Your Relationship

No one’s relationship is 100% perfect, just like no single individual is 100% perfect. There is always room for improvement. People often don’t realize just how much they neglected their relationship or how little they prioritized it until they lose it. After the breakup mourning period, people tend to get themselves together and put in the effort to make themselves as appealing as possible. But, when we get into a relationship, we tend to slack off and settle into a routine. We take our partner for granted and accept as a given that they will always be there. So, how can we step up and secure our relationship into the break-up/divorce proof box?

HERE ARE 10 WAYS TO STEP UP AND PROTECT YOUR RELATIONSHIP:

1. BE THOUGHTFUL

Be kind and considerate of the other person’s needs, desires and feelings. Be thoughtful in remembering things like anniversaries and birthdays. Be aware of your partner’s mood and whether or not they had a bad day. Then, do something to cheer them up or take their mind off of stressful things.

2. BE A CHEERLEADER

Rather than criticize and tear down your partner, build them up and encourage them to take risks. Be their number one cheerleader. No one likes to have an idea shot down or be told they can’t do something. Tell them they can accomplish their goals and encourage them to pursue their goals in the first place.

3. GET A SENSE OF HUMOR

Stop taking yourself so seriously. If you do or say something stupid, then instead of getting upset and embarrassed, laugh it off and make a joke about it. If you or your partner are having a bad day, then go do something fun and goofy. Make each other laugh. Laughter is, after all, the best medicine.

4. TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY

If you were single, you would want to look and feel your best. So, why is it people feel they can slack off when they land a mate? If you want to keep your partner interested and feel good about yourself, then hit the gym, go walk around the park or get involved in a sport. Eating good food, exercising and get a getting a good night’s sleep can do wonders for your attitude and your relationship.

5. DO SOMETHING SPONTANEOUS

We all have routines, and routine can be the death of fun. Break out of your rut from time to time and do something different. Shake things up. Put that excitement back in your life of occasionally not knowing what you will be doing from night to night.

6. LISTEN TO YOUR PARTNER

Pay attention to your partner when they are speaking. Get off of Facebook, quit texting your buddy, pause the show you were watching and listen when your partner speaks. No one wants to feel ignored. If you zone out or check out while they are speaking to you, then they are going to get hurt and eventually they are going to stop trying to speak to you at all. Unplug from the internet and plug into your partner form time to time.

7. MAKE YOUR PARTNER A PRIORITY

If you neglect your relationship, it is going to decay, and before you know it, it will be gone. Make your relationship a priority. Your partner has dibs on your time, so if your partner wants to spend time with you and you want to go do something else, then your partner should win out. We all need our alone time or time with friends, but if you are prioritizing time alone or with someone besides your partner, then they will start looking for someone who will set them as a priority.

8. EMBRACE FLEXIBILITY

Don’t get attached to a routine or schedule. Be ready to do something spontaneous or change your plans. Improvise, adapt and overcome. Being flexible reduces stress as you are ready to change directions at a moment’s notice. Less stress for you means less stress for your relationship.

9. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY

Take responsibility, not only for your actions, but also for your own baggage. We all have it and we all drag it around with us. Take action to address it with your partner and hopefully they will address and take responsibility for their own. Once that is out of the way, then take responsibility for the health of your relationship. If it fails, it is at least half your fault. If it is to succeed, then it is also half of your responsibility to get it there.

Related article: Psychologist Reveals These 4 Behaviors Are The Biggest Predictors of Divorce

10. PUT THE WORK IN

You know what you have to do, but that isn’t enough. You have to put in the work in order to make your relationship better. You have to get up off your butt and make it happen. Life doesn’t happen to you. You are responsible for making things happen in your life. If you don’t put in the work, then you won’t get the rewarding life you want.

5 Things To Always Keep Secret About Your Relationship

“We have to recognize that there cannot be relationships unless there is commitment, unless there is loyalty, unless there is love, patience, persistence.” – Cornel West, Breaking Bread: Insurgent Black Intellectual Life

Most of us that have been part of an intimate relationship have discussed some details of it within your social circle. Some of this dialogue is fun and harmless, yet there are certain parts of a relationship that shouldn’t be discussed with anyone besides your partner.

First, some relationship topics are entirely inappropriate to talk about, even with a ‘BFF’ or some other perceivably trustworthy third-party. Second, words have a way of quickly spreading, and, with the prolific use of social media, your “private matters” can quickly become public.

Also, consider how you would feel if your partner discussed private, intimate matters with someone else. Intimate relationships are special because of the intimacy – a physical and emotional connection shared by two people. Not three, not four. Two.

HERE ARE FIVE THINGS TO ALWAYS KEEP PRIVATE WITHIN IN A RELATIONSHIP:

1. ANYTHING SEX-RELATED

Talking about anything relating to sex should be considered a big no-no. Examples of such topics include: how often you do (or don’t) have sex, any sexual fantasies, problems in the bedroom, and so forth.

Engaging in conversation with someone else about your sexual experiences robs the relationship of its intimacy. No matter how big or small such details may be, conversing with anyone else about sex-related topics besides your partner is an act of deception.

In the event that sexual problems are creating distance, or otherwise causing friction in the relationship, therapeutic outlets exist that can help to resolve such issues. Furthermore, experts such as relationship therapists and counselors are bound by confidentiality agreements to keep all related matters private.

2. ANY PERCEIVED FLAWS

When a man is made to feel less like a man, or when a woman is made to feel less like a woman, they’re deeply hurt – and relationship problems can escalate quickly. None of us are perfect, and being part of a relationship does nothing to change this universal fact.

Robin Williams, playing the part of a therapist in the movie Good Will Hunting, said to a troubled Matt Damon’s character experiencing a relationship conundrum:

“My wife used to fart in her sleep. [Queue a cracked up Damon and Williams]. She had all sorts of wonderful idiosyncrasies…Christ, she’s been dead two years and that’s what I remember…That’s what I miss the most. The little idiosyncrasies that only I know about; that’s what made her my wife…You’re not perfect, sport…and I’ll save you the suspense, neither is she…The question is whether or not you’re perfect for each other.”

Epic scene, yes; but a powerful (albeit, hilarious) reminder of what we should value in our partner – and how shortcomings are a matter of perspective.

Regardless of how you may feel, these “flaws” are best kept under wraps.

3. FIGHTS OR HEATED ARGUMENTS

Aside from altercations that involve physical or emotional abuse, relationship “fights” shouldn’t be discussed with others. Your close friend may indeed help “solve” the issue to a certain extent, but therein lies the problem – it takes your partner out of the equation.

Resolving continuing altercations requires communication with the appropriate parties; Namely, you, your partner, and (possibly) a counselor or therapist.

4. MONEY TROUBLES

Oh, yes, no “relationship secrets” article would be complete without mentioning money issues. Or – in this case – not mentioning money issues.

First, it’s important to understand that financial troubles within a relationship are very common. According to a 2015 survey by SunTrust Bank, “Some 35 percent of all respondents experiencing relationship stress said money was the primary cause of friction…Among respondents with relationship stress aged 44 to 54, 44 percent said money was the primary cause.”

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In other words, you are not alone in your money troubles. As much stress that money-related issues may induce, they’re solvable given the necessary knowledge. If a prompt resolution is essential, seek the advice of a financial adviser. Of course, refrain from droning on about problems that are nobody else’s business. They probably won’t help, anyways.

5. ANYTHING SAID IN CONFIDENCE

At the risk of sounding cliché, trust is the backbone of any relationship. Most of what happens in a relationship has some type of “cure,” but betraying your partner’s trust is perhaps the most egregious of offenses – and is, unsurprisingly, difficult to rebound from.

This is exactly why his or her innermost thoughts and feelings –those that he or she has entrusted you and only you with – are not to ever (ever) be revealed.

40 Things Every Person Should Know By Age 40

“Life really does begin at 40. Up until then, you are just doing research.” – Carl Jung

As the “generations” evolve, so does the experience of “growing up.” For example, the “Greatest Generation” had it different than the “Baby Boomers”, who (certainly) have experienced life differently than millennials. No offense, young ones. Generational differences aside, the accumulation of “life knowledge”– at least to an extent – depends on involuntary factors (e.g. sex and type of upbringing). In creating this list, we’ve taken these things into account.

Are there things that everyone “should know” by age 40?

This question is very subjective. 40 years is a long time (at least in human years), and many of us have very likely gained life experiences and knowledge that are applicable to other 40-somethings.

In other words, it is highly probable that many in this demographic have a shared understanding – at least at a basic level – of “how the world works.” So, we’re going to list 40 things everyone ‘should’ know by age 40? Why 40 things? We’ll let you try and figure that one out.

It is important to understand that this article, as with many we publish, are intended to be fun, humorous…and, maybe, a bit insightful. Some of these may apply to you, some (most likely) will not.

We just want you to have fun, laugh a bit, and maybe (maybe) take away something else.

ANYWAYS…HERE ARE THOSE 40 THINGS/EXPERIENCES/LESSONS:

1. Weekend benders are ALWAYS a bad idea

2. Nothing beats a good night’s sleep

3. One’s “career path” can include multiple forks in the road

4. Having your own den/mancave/hideout is irreplaceable

5. Your social circle has become smaller and smaller – and for the better

6. A night alone or with a significant other beats “hitting the town” almost every time

7. You’ve had at least one great love that took some time to get over

8. To have kids or to not have kids? Odds are, you know the answer by now

9. To have a pet or not have a pet? Same thing…it’s either your “thing” or not

10. You’ve experienced at least one tragedy, unfortunately

11. You’ve ate something completely strange…and now love it

12. You’ve fought for something bigger than yourself…by donating money, giving time, etc.

13. Singing karaoke is enough to induce a panic attack if sober

14. Singing karaoke can be a blast (or at least tolerable) when you’ve “had a few”

15. Fashion sense matters as much as the color of your toilet’s lid

16. You’ve (hopefully) realized the inevitability of death – and seek to live to the fullest

17. If you’re not a “people person,” you’ll (probably) never be one

18. Fatty foods seem to have an immediate bloating effect

19. Exercise is a wonderful antidote to just about anything

20. A good read is a wonderful antidote to just about anything

21. The word “success” takes on much, much less meaning

22. Intimacy (i.e. “sex life”) is wonderful in moderation…and when you’re in love

23. The youngsters look to you for advice more often – for better or worse

24. Dancing is either (a) completely acceptable (you can dance), or (b) completely off limits (just, no)

25. 99 percent of the stuff learned in college is not – and never will be – an important part of your life

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26. Slippers, a robe, a cardigan – you either own one of these…and/or you enjoy crossword puzzles

27. Marijuana (aka, “pot”)…you either enjoy the occasional hit, or you absolutely refuse

28. Your internal bull**** meter has been finely-tuned, or at least received a tune-up

29. Talking to people on the phone is limited to (a) co-workers or (b) family – about 99 percent of the time

30. Being “uninvited” to something can feel really, really good

31. Formal work events almost always suck

32. Playing videogames, computer games, and/or other games are still really fun…or not

33. Not having “a plan” has been totally worth it…or the “plan” has yielded a good life

34. Incoming phone calls, e-mails, and other communications are looked upon with disdain

35. Taking the time to learn something new is almost always stoked by passion, not persuasion

36. Arguing with someone is: (a) pointless, (b) a waste of energy, and (c) “isn’t my favorite show on right now?”

37. You’ve either wished to travel the world, don’t care, or have obtained a passport

38. Come to realize that hangovers are both miserable and completely avoidable

39. The “Snooze” button looks really, really good from Monday through Friday…maybe even Saturday and Sunday…

40. Realized that 40 is still young…and you’ve got plenty left in the tank – and you’re grateful for that.

How about you, dear reader, can you identify with any of these 40 “things you should know by age 40?”

We’d love to hear your feedback!

8 FINANCIAL HABITS THAT WOULD MAKE YOU SUCCESSFUL

Habits define and make us so that is why it’s really important you have the right habit. To be successful financially, you also need the right sets of habits too. If you check the lives of all great men, they all have one thing in common – good financial habits.

Cultivate these 8 financial habits if you want to become successful

1. DON’T SPEND MORE THAN YOU EARN

With easy access to loans these days, it’s really tempting to spend more than you earn but this attitude won’t take you to the top. Spending more than you earn is a disaster. Ensure you keep your expenses below what you earn.

2. HAVE A BUDGET

Having a budget is important as it helps you stay organised. I talked about spending below what you earn earlier and you can only achieve that if you have a budget.

3. SPEND WISELY

Impulse buying isn’t a habit you should have. You should ensure you don’t shop for the sake of shopping. Before every purchase, carry out a research and you should also ensure you need the purchase you are about making.

4. PAY YOUR BILLS ON TIME

Paying your bills on time is another financial habit you need to cultivate. When you pay your bills on time, you ensure you don’t owe and you also know how much you really have left.

5. CHECK YOUR BANK BALANCE DAILY

When was the last time you checked your bank balance? Some only check it when they get paid weekly or monthly and this isn’t a right habit to have. Checking your bank balance daily helps you know exactly where you stand financially and this would help you avoid spending and regretting later.

6. ENSURE YOU PAY YOUR DEBTS

Don’t push paying your debts till tomorrow if you can pay it today. Paying off debts you have should be your priority as this ensures you become debt-free sooner rather than later.

7. HAVE AN EMERGENCY FUND

The importance of having an emergency fund is really important as it helps you when you have emergencies. It’s important you save for emergencies because you’ll never know ahead of time when an emergency would arise.

8. KNOW WHERE YOUR MONEY IS GOING

If you don’t know how you spent the money you earned last month, then you have a big problem. You should always know how much you spend and where your money is going because this helps you pinpoint cracks in your budget. You would easily discover leakages in your expenses if you know where your money is going.

15 Habits of Irresistible People

You know that person who seems to have a flair of good luck? The one who, even though isn’t drop-dead gorgeous, is always able to get whatever she wants? There is more to the outer beauty of these people. They light up a room when they walk into it. This type of person is able to accomplish much in life because of attitude, charisma, or something as simple as kindness. Their smile exudes confidence, compassion and joy. You may wonder what separates them from others.

Dr. Travis Bradberry, author of Emotional Intelligence 2.0, has researched and studied the emotional connection of people. He has recognized that there are basic characteristics that make some people more friendly and charismatic to others.

“When influential people speak, conversations spread like ripples in a pond. And those ripples are multidirectional; influencers inspire everyone around them to explore new ideas and think differently about their work.” Likeable people are conscious of how they treat others. They believe that “Few things kill likeability as quickly as arrogance.” Irresistible people don’t act as if they are better than you. They actually believe that you have the ability to succeed, and create the life that you want. But, what’s the secret to truly being this type of person?

HERE ARE 15 THINGS IRRESISTIBLE PEOPLE DO DIFFERENTLY:

1. THEY TREAT EVERYONE WITH DIGNITY AND RESPECT.

Irresistible people don’t put others down. What makes them so likeable is the ability to treat a homeless person in the same manner that he would treat the CEO to a huge company. To this person, there is no class or status that separates anyone. We are all part of the human race.

2. THEY DON’T GOSSIP.

The charismatic person has no need to utilize gossip as their motive to partake in a conversation. They are always bringing in the best of themselves, and allowing others to shine. This is what makes them so generous in uplifting others. Gossip is a negative trait, and they have little tolerance for it.

3. THEY TREAT OTHERS AS THEY EXPECT TO BE TREATED.

Dr. Bradberry believes that these type of folks follow a healthy life rule that says you should treat others the way you wish to be treated. “But that rule is flawed because it assumes that everyone wants to be treated the same way. In reality, people have different desires and goals.”

The irresistible person understands this and follows not the golden rule, but the platinum one: treat others the way THEY want to be treated.

4. THEY HAVE HEALTHY BOUNDARIES.

Irresistible people don’t try to please everyone all the time. They know that there is a time and place for everything. They don’t give more of themselves. They have healthy ways of assisting and giving to others. But, they never run themselves ragged. These people take care of themselves. And, in that ability to sustain boundaries, they show a beautiful example of self-love to others.

5. THEY ARE GENUINE.

These type of people do not pretend to be someone they are not. What you see is what you get. They exude self-confidence. The irresistible person doesn’t have to have super-model looks, but she or he will walk into a room with such confidence that they shine. They know their worth, and never allow others to dictate how they should see themselves.

6. THEY HAVE INTEGRITY.

Albert Einstein said, “Whoever is careless with the truth in small matters cannot be trusted with important matters.” The person with integrity stands in their authenticity. They know what matters and this is passed on to others. They make you question your honesty, principles, and goodness. Integrity is one of the best characteristics that they teach others.

7. THEY SMILE AT EVERYONE.

The most powerful and attractive quality that an irresistible person has is their ability to always smile, in spite of whatever is going on in their lives. They bring forth laughter with their energy. These likeable people know that a smile is sexier than any outfit, stronger than any pill, and has the ability to break down negativity.

8. THEY ARE COMPASSIONATE.

The irresistible person is empathetic to others. They show compassion to animals, nature, and people. They know that one minute you might be on top of the world, and in an instant you can find yourself struggling. Being compassionate is not just about showing kindness to those you like, but also leaving the zone of comfort and stepping into places that the heart breaks into pieces. They take chances in loving others and they know it’s worth it. They help everyone. They wear their hearts in their sleeves.

9. THEY LOVE LIFE.

Successful and charming individuals love life. They are not exempt from heart ache, misfortunes, or challenges, but they know that life is priceless and it’s the only thing that is real. This life is for taking chances, loving, and helping others. They cherish every moment, and when they meet someone new, they make that person feel as if they are the most incredible thing in their day.

10. THEY BRING PEOPLE TOGETHER.

These people are huge human connectors. They bring like-minded people together. They want to help others succeed. If you are among these type of enchanting individuals, you will notice that they immediately display a sense of connection. They may become your own fairy godmother, helping you reach to the next level. They will immediately draw you a map to get to someone who can help you on your journey.

11. THEY TRULY LOVE PEOPLE.

This is a given. These happy people love people. The irresistible person is the one who coined the term “people person.” They love to be around others. They get inspired by energy and stories. The likeable individual has an ability to attract those who are ready to fly and conquer their own dreams.

12. THEY KNOW YOU MUST WORK HARD TO GET AHEAD.

The irresistible person may always wear a smile, but they know that nothing comes without hard work and some struggling. They work hard and succeed with an undeniable thirst for accomplishing their desires. They succeed because they don’t give up. And, when you are among this type of person, you also feel that ability to overcome anything ahead.

13. THEY LISTEN.

Dr. Bradberry says, “People like to know you’re listening, and something as simple as a clarification question shows not only that you are listening but that you also care about what they’re saying. You’ll be surprised how much respect and appreciation you gain just by asking good questions.”

The irresistible person has this innate ability to stare into your spirit and truly make you feel as if you are understood, acknowledged and loved.

14. THEY HAVE POSITIVE ATTITUDES.

In spite of all the challenges in life, these folks continue to have positive attitudes. They don’t feed into negativity. They don’t entertain the woe-is-me attitude from anyone. They avoid confrontations and always search for an optimistic answer to the heavy questions in life.

15. THEY ALWAYS SAY “PLEASE” AND “THANK YOU.”

The ability to show gratitude is a magic wand for the irresistible person. They know that compliments go a long way in the journey of life, but what truly makes others like you are the simple manners: saying “please” and “thank you.” These magic words are never misused, and they know exactly how powerful they are in making others feel understood, acknowledged, and accepted.